Not all people are equal. It use to chew anything it could get its mouth on, pee/poop in anywhere except outside, sleep in her bed (it would also pee/poop there), etcpretty much anything that, I believe, any reasonable person would be infuriated by. Sounds like a perfect case . (and the current caretakers dont want to keep them, they are also tired with all the pee and poop and hairs, so thats not an option). On several occasions my wife has developed a sore on her lip that often takes a week or longer to heal. I HATE THIS DOG! Growing up we had dogs but they were never allowed to run in the house never sit on furniture or even go into bedrooms. I am the one to feed, let outside and forever try to clean up the urine from the carpet because one of the older dogs (13) is almost completely incontinent. Sometimes I feel like I am the odd one out now. Your dog affects your partner. The last thing you want is a reluctant dog owner to witness a fight. These dogs have done $8,000 to my brand new home and this has destroyed what should have been a great time in our lives and a time of healing. I adore my lady. Yes we talked about it. And you know what? He says its all shes known her whe life and so now Im just mad at them both all the time. Youre not crazy. Im getting so tipped to the edge about all of this i need help :( x. Thankfully, we live somewhere else and we cant have them, but the time will come that we will get our own place and I dont want those dogs! Calls her a good girl and constantly gives her treats and loves on her. Then she ends up telling me that her dog is depressed and needs another doganother bulldog! She was too in love with her dogs to have a human relationship. And to be Honest I dont really mind his dog that much anymore just knowing that he stands and supports me, not the dog is helpful because now I know that dog doesnt come before me or any human for that matter. Possibly bitter sprays can help until you solve the issue with positive reinforcement techniques. The dog whines to be requested to get let out or other who knows. I lied to my spouse that I was crying for another reason so another dog fight did not occur. We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. Pls help!!!! So I dont find it that unfair. Lady your dog is leading your life. I have made a arrangement with my wife NO pets in the bed.after one week she decide to bring the dog back in the bed. I think the real issue is over the past 13 years my partner has had it one way and his way, and now that I request things be different he finds the demands unreasonable and defends his dog. How were we, the dog victims, supposed to know that our dog-obsessed partner would tell us to be quiet when our family doctor calls so that doggo can bark outside, instead of going out there and make the dog be quiet so that we can hear what our doctor is saying on the phone? I want to focus on our marriage and we want to travel together, I moved to the US for him, so we want to visit my home country regularly and also visit other places. Im standing firm & want him to go to my therapist with me so perhaps she can explain it to him better than I am. Ive tried my hardest to train her, and even my boyfriend (of 4 years ) has made several concessions. I train, strictly, on one commanded at a time, and while the other things are happening I just say no, and take it away. It wasnt a matter of loving an animal, it was that he made me feel he was in love with the dog and it broke my heart over and over again. He said that all he did was pick him up to take him outside. My boyfriend and I have been dating for around 4 years and his mother was very sick with cancer during this time. So I need help! Their minds arent wired that way! Its truly an epidemic! And no offense but if you had your fur baby BEFORE the fiance. I moved about 12 hours away for my boyfriend, my dog is extremely clingy he cries when he is away from me for a second i cant even go to the bathroom without him crying to come in he wakes up in the middle of the night and just starts barking trust me of course this drives my boyfriend insane it is also very hard to teach my dog not to do certain things because he is deaf now us just moving in together this obviously became a problem very quickly my boyfriend also does not think dogs should be in the kitchen well my dog went in the kitchen we got into a huge fight over this i love my dog very much!! We are also thinking about a baby, but I dont want my children to grow up in a house full with poop and pee and dog hairs. Also that the new one would be just as spoiled as the last. He hates her he says, he says she is a stupid dog and cant wait until she dies. Dogs take a LOT of time and effort, more than most people realize. Now I had a rescue of a mom dachsund and 3 pups who someone dropped out of a car and left. In such a unique case, investing money in a dog trainer is the foremost thing that needs to be done in order to keep the dog with you. I also have the same issue with my cat! What do I do??? Chat with your husband/boyfriend: Talk with him very politely and say that you entirely agree and understandable his concern, and ask for another month to correct the behavior. Sure, I will go through some ups and downs of separation and divorce, as the marriage didnt make it, but in the end, I am sure without such negativity I will be much happier on a day-to-day basis. Hello, again! I just changed my entire life for this man and dont want to lose him or my dog advice anyone ??? I love animals, i have a dog that I love to bits, but I absolutely HATE my wifes dog. Together we have two cats and a dog we rescued a couple years ago. If you endeavor with a strong mind, you will be able to turn this offensive dog into an affectionate, kind to kids, loving canine. She made arrangements for her mother to take the dog when she came out to visit last week. His dog doesnt come when he calls her, wants to kill every small dog she sees, barks constantly when left alone in his truck and barks at people walking by my dog has none of these habits but my boyfriend insists his dog is normal wherein mine is not. It might even be something that helps you decide if you want to take the . Pretty over it all. Occasionally if she was let inside too long with out going potty she would have an accident or knock over the trash.. But I am aware that he does not treat them equally and my dog has picked that up too. I think you giving away your dog however may cause some resentment on your end in the near future, but if its the only way hell get treated better maybe it is your only option. I realize this is mental abuse, but hes very good at it, and, theres really nothing I can do, even though its all just to control me. Help! Enough to break the marriage? Lucy, Im glad I offered something relatable. Mind you my husband NEVER helps me with the dog. Im starting to feel resentment and dont know how to deal with this as I love the dog and hes well trained etc. The problem is that people who love dogs can not fathom why there are people who dont like them. Stay out of the kitchen when we are eating (would also want when we are cooking), stay off the couch and out of the bedroom. It upsets me greatly, we also have a 4 yr old son which the dog has bit on a couple occasions simply because the dog does not like him. He jumps up on me, and it hurts so bad when his nails rake my skin, and has knocked me to the ground before. Id rather have bonded relationships with other HUMANS! Heres my issue. In the beginning, she said she will choose her dog over any SO or family member in a heartbeat. My boyfriend now wont go near him and yells at him to get away from him and ignores him, so my dog gets upset and keeps trying to see him. Her dog could go next door and like you said, be fed a steak, and stay over there forgetting who she is. My pup does chew but not on her things like she use to do. Otherwise Id have shut the dogs away for him and Id have known from day one that dogs were a no-no. But apparently it was too much to ask, because we have had so many massive fights about it. He even refers to her as his child. You are human, a different species. I can put myself in his shoes in many ways but not with that thing. I knew she shed before I moved in but I had hoped to stay on top of it more when actually living here. He is treating the puppy like a baby and trying to get me interested but Im not, besides I have my own dog that I never brought with because I knew the conditions were not favourable and I know we hardly at home, so it was best to leave her with my family and their pets that she grew up with. Challenging for sure when polar opposites. No matter how many times I bring it up. As for your other issue, this is something that will require a serious heart-to-heart with your boyfriend. I said I would not get married if she slept in the bed. Period. Although she might not have a perfect behavior I love her and accept her. Its not good for you or your relationship. We do sleep in the same bed, but when she came, she began sleeping in the room with us. Why in an apartment (AND WHY WITH SMALL CHILDREN???). That the dog calms him. So to be honest to myself and to my husband, I did get the third dog because for the first time I wanted to have MY own dog. Often the garage can be an example. Its just sick sick sick!!! I have pretty much put my foot down and the dog has to stay in her bed all the time. I finally told her a few weeks ago that the animal needs to find a new home. If it has gotten to that point, it really isnt about the dog, it is about the relationship. He lets it up to the kids to brush and bathe them which they dont do very often. None of the begging nonsense excessive unnecessary barking etcfast forward. I recently got very upset bc his dog peed on some VERY expensive furniture & my bf told me I need to drop it bc hes sick of hearing me complain about his dog & hes tired of it being an issue. Then you can adjust the procedure that needs to follow based on the requirements stated by the dog behaviorist. I enjoy cuddling with him. Remember its your dogs not his. The dogs have plenty of bones and balls to chew on and play with, but he continues to chew on the carpet and also the curtains. I refuse to leave with a dog that stinks like s***. Bathe the dog on regular basis. I dont want to end something that is so good because of an animal. No. I need at least one room for me that I wont have to worry about the fur. Lots of relationships get stressed and dog lovers are incredibly strange in what they tolerate. Why even have a relationship with a person if theres the chance you are gonna let them leave or discard them over an animal? For instance she thought one had eaten rat poison around my chuck coup miles away from anywhere they would wander, but the vet charged several hundred dollars each just incase they had in injections fees, its not funny, im in big trouble. Hes attached himself to this dog to the point were now separated. We had a neighbor who had one of those and it drove us crazy. If your dog has separation anxiety that leads to peeing and pooping all over the house, chewing things, and being destructive, perhaps this can be the reason why does your husband/boyfriend needs to rehome the dog. This is the exact way I feel. This whole allergy thing started out when his parents looked after our cat during a month-long overseas trip we took when a friend of mine could no longer live up to her commitment in the last minute. Because my GF allows it now all people must suffer. He wasnt over the moon about my dog but he grew to tolerate and even help out if I would be home late from work or out for the day. I told him that he either needs to take her and come up with the deposit for the condo, pay me for all my efforts of cleaning her mud and poop like doggy day care, or stop by every morning and take her to doggy daycare on his way to work. Even children need boundaries and structure for a happy well loved life. Ive dreamed of owning my own indoor dog since I was very little and now that I cant, it hurts. Chat with the vet: Its a good idea to chat with your veterinarian to figure out if there are any psychological or. It also feels that things are getting better between my husband and I. Dog ownership is a LOT of work! I guess I am just talking out of my a**, but it just seems easier if I was alone and maybe find someone who doesnt have a dog and actually thinks the way I do. Jennifer: He gets very rowdy with me when I try to catch his attention about it. Now with my partner its so different. If you say something they call you a jerk. Since my dad, also 2 of the 4 I had left passed. If the dog is just still a puppy, forgiveness can be given. While I have a big fat belly and Im constantly complaining about my back. I didnt want it but I was new to the relationship and we didnt live together so it wasnt my place to say so. Im not without feelings but theres no telling how long the dog could live. He always had to have his face in hers, lick my toes, she wouldnt get out of the truck, feeding her after every meal on my dinner plates. First thing is her need to feed the dog everything shes eating to be point where its expected! I guess he probably sees the thing like his child also. And Im so sorry for all that youve gone through. Sign up and Get Listed. So then we bought a tether type thing to chain her up. Dont let them play without your supervision. It is something I dont believe in and it breaks my heart to even consider. I love to have nice clean things and now, I find myself spending most of my days in the rooms where animals arent allowed. Its ok not to like a dog. No, I really did not have a clue! He admitted hed never told me he was frightened of them and thought it wouldnt be an issue, despite knowing how much I wanted a dog. The episode featured a family (husband, wife, 2 teenage kids) and their Pomeranian. One is normal. I am to the end of my rope. I.e., Move to a new house. We got into a horrible fight recently over it, he agreed to see if giving his dog anxiety medication would help. A spouse is not inherently loyal to you because humans are not monogamous meaning that something or someone could easily lead them astray. My last dog and cat slept with me until I realized I was lifting my leg in the middle of the night and wasnt getting very sound sleep. I want my fiance to be happy again but I also dont want to give up the dog either. One time I sat down and my pajama bottoms were wet. So I told Steve that I'm not going to keep being responsible for the dog he begged for and if he can't start getting up earlier and taking responsibility for the dog, then he needs to start looking for a new home for the dog. Its to the point I have to watch him with everything he does. They have passed away 2 yrs ago my mom and not quite 1 yr ago my dad. I truly Im not fan of this dog and I want him out the bed. The steroids made her urinate excessively, unbeknownst to us. We picked up Chatty Cathy and she is a young cat that talks way too much and does not listen! My dog has invertebral disc disease and hes had episodes in the past but only after jumping off of furniture, not just from being picked up. He refuses to go to the bathroom unless its on his terms, so he wakes her parents up all through the night. My husband was mean to her I found out later as he apologized. This is keeping me very busy the last days and I feel like one dog has to go if I want to keep my relationship. From day one, training was implemented. Im currently going through another argument with DH. Suppose the dog bites your child got drew pretty much a considerable amount of blood and the child is afraid of canines, now the husband/boyfriend is correct beyond any doubt. (As He has already said his dog will come first always) He already thinks I despise his dog which I dont he jsut doesnt understand I dont know how to deal with the constant need and attention I love this man and never want to lose him over a dog but how should I go about dealing with this? Especially when cats do their own thing and its not like theyre around bugging you all day like the needy dog. Sometimes I can hear him waiting and listening to my partners footsteps. It is super disgusting how bad behavior is rewarded with these Chihuahuas. She did say she was open to having me help train him to break the pattern, but I still feel like shes just gotten too comortable with the convenience of dropping her dog off at her parents house. The chewing and pottying and getting in the kitchen table pisses me off. So thats another issue. Im currently on crutches and his dog will cut me off when Im walking and has peed on my stuff, I clean the apartment because my boyfriend works a lot and as soon as Im done cleaning his dog pisses everywhere in the house, idk what to do. I was running to emergency vets every 2 weeks. My fianc told me that he is a special dog. I was loving. In fact, You will receive an abundance of complaints from the neighbors about your dogs loudness. He thinks dogs belong outside. He blames it on her being a puppy which shes 1 so she is. Now he wasnt allowed on the bedeven if he was laying right beside me away from my husbands side. Im worn out and tired. Yes, she is a dog. as long as you aren't trying to force him to get rid of the dog then you're NTA, otherwise you are. And when I dontobey him by responding to him(like in a text or in a face to face communication)when he thinks I should respond(like his dog; always loving)he compares it! The dog begs at all meals or literally anytime you put something in your mouth, I seriously cannot take my birth control without the dog begging. My dog ran out the room first and me second. He even refers to her as his child. All this with the power of love. It doesnt matter how strongly your spouse clings to this decision. 75 percent of his waking life he is begging for something. I wish your sorrow is short term and much happiness you find a woman makes you a happy man. My other two cats are female and get along almost all the time but have a fight once in a while that I have to break up and I get scratched. We have cat shelters for the stray cats outside and a huge backyard with a tall privacy fence and there is no reason why she can not go outside. Has anyone else had these types of issues from dogs? The hamster is in my room. Dog stays off the furniture, gets her own doggie bed for the bedroom, and he sweeps everyday. But no its ok. Because thats just innocent. 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